I have to admit, I’ve always lacked confidence – especially when speaking. I overthink almost everything I’m going to say. I rarely speak in meetings because when I have a thought I’ll think it over, then by the time I’m done thinking it over we have moved on. Anybody else have this feeling?!
I admit that taking the steps to build confidence are easier said than done. But, even if you pick just one of them you’ll start building confidence in some way. This past year I can say that I’ve definitely grown from using these tips. I force myself to act confident and challenge myself to speak in meetings.
5 Steps to Build Confidence
Accept the compliment. Why is it that when someone compliments us we struggle to accept it? Instead of denying the compliment – recognize it and repeat it and write it down. When you’re being hard on yourself or feeling at a loss, whip out those compliments and remember how worthy, talented and capable you are. It’ll help you pinpoint your strengths as well.
Dress the part. Buy clothing that you feel good in. Try patterns or colors that make you glow instead of drown you out and buy clothing that fits and isn’t overly baggy. If you look good, you’ll feel good. Most important part to dressing the part – wear a smile and stand up straight and tall!
Kill the negativity. Stop telling yourself that you can’t or that something won’t happen. If you have a negative look on something, you’re right – it’s bound not to happen. So think positive and change your thought process on even the most frustrating and challenging of things.
Research and be prepared. It’s likely you aren’t confident because you’re doubting your knowledge on the topic. Prepare yourself for whatever it is that you’re doing by researching the topic or practicing what you’re going to say. For example, as a teacher of the visually impaired, I attend meetings for my students all the time. Before every meeting, I review the student file to make sure I am clear about their eye condition and I practice what I’m going to say over and over in the car before I arrive at the meeting. I know that if I don’t prepare beforehand it’ll sound like an explosion of word vomit during the meeting.
Challenge yourself. Set a goal or a challenge when you’re lacking confidence. I literally have to force myself to act confident sometimes. I challenge myself before a meeting and say, “You will speak up at least once.”
Like I said above, I feel most confident when I like what I’m wearing. This dress by Shopjoyworks paired with a blazer or cardigan is my go-to for meetings.
Dress: Jack by BB Dakota Poet Dress – Shopjoyworks
Necklace: LC Lauren Conrad – Kohls (similar)