There I was, a freshman in college, not knowing one single person. I moved from New Jersey to Arizona and I was a total fishy out of water. I instantly immersed myself in meeting people around my dorm and became close friends with a group of girls who lived 5 floors above me. They invited me into their little group with open arms and we were attached at the hip for the majority of our freshman year. I met great people from that group, a couple that I’m still friends with today, but the girls of this group were toxic. It was ruled by a Regina George. (If you are unfamiliar with Regina George – she is the leader and bully of a group of girls in the movie Mean Girls) She had us wrapped around her finger and I found myself constantly trying to please her.
I remember throwing parties at our boyfriends house and being so rude to any female that walked in. We didn’t even know the girl, but Regina George would instantly title her any derogatory word you can think of. I knew people didn’t like us because of it. But, I didn’t really care, Regina George accepted me, so why would I need anyone else?
It was our junior year when things took a complete turn for the worse. Regina turned the other girls in our group against me and it was their mission to ruin my life. They did for a semester until I removed myself from the situation by taking a semester off to volunteer abroad. I honestly don’t know what would have happened had I have stayed. Leaving these “friendships” behind was probably the best decision I have ever made.
When I returned from my trip I moved in with a new group of girls who completely changed my life. They are the most accepting, welcoming, and beautiful women I have ever met. I didn’t know what it was like to have friends like this. I instantly connected with them and they remain my closest friends today.
…Aren’t they gorgeous?!? 😉
|This picture captures all the beauty of each and every one of these ladies! So much love, laughter, comfort, and trust.|
So what did Regina George teach me:
- It may feel cool to be welcomed by “the plastics” but it will be the most unfulfilling friendship.
- Friendship takes reciprocation. It’s a two way street and everyone needs to make effort.
- There are people out there who are willing to welcome you into their friend group with open arms, don’t put up with the Regina Georges!
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