I sit here watching the Nicholas Sparks movie Dear John, tears rolling down my face (because it’s just so gosh darn beautiful), after having just sent to what feels like the 100th guy the “it’s not you, it’s me” text.
There’s something so gut-wrenchingly stunning about Nicholas Sparks movies. Maybe you think they’re cheesy or lame, but to me they show the emotional roller coaster behind absolute true love. I get sucked into the story the second it starts and it’s charming journey for the next couple hours.
Never seen a Nicholas Sparks movie? (who are you?!) The Notebook, The Lucky One, A Walk to Remember, Dear John, The Longest Ride, Safe Haven…all so good.
Here’s what you’ve missed: Let’s start with the fact that every single movie of his has an absolutely handsome actor to play the role of the most romantic man in the world. Most romantic man in the world falls in love with natural beauty actress. There is a tragedy, just like in any life. Somehow they are brought back together or they work through the trauma because that’s what true love is. They live madly in love for the rest of their lives.
I’m not going to sit here and say that this love story is going to happen in my life. These love stories are a bit stretched beyond reality. I understand that. But I will sit here and say that I’m looking for love. I’m not looking to settle or to push through a feeling that I know is not real.
The past few years, I’ve gone on too many dates to count. I know after the first date if there is a spark or not. Sometimes, I force myself to go on a second date because absolutely nothing went wrong on date number 1, besides my lack of chemistry. But, what I’ve learned from that is chemistry is necessary from day 1. Out of these tons of dates, I’ve stumbled upon a handful of guys who have peeked my interest past date 2. However, none of those have turned into the fairy tale Nicholas Sparks story – to be honest – they turned into frustration, confusion, and pain.
What I’m getting at here is that you need to trust your instincts and stay optimistic.
Stop waiting and start living.
Dating isn’t easy. Being in a relationship or married isn’t easy either. Life ain’t easy! But, it’s only harder if we don’t focus on living a life that we want to live. Take the time to discover your passions, your interests, make new friends, put yourself out there, let go of the negativity, set some goals, step out of your comfort zone, and quit thinking that love will never happen.
Loving yourself should be your number one priority. The rest will fall into place.
Dress: c/o Goldies
Hat: Forever 21 (similar)
Shoes: Sole Society (similar)
Photography by: Rebekah Katherine Photography